I need everyone's help here. I have a situation that I am not comfortable with how it stands right now...
Here it is...
I was friends with this great gal, and she invited me to do something with her that required reservations and a fee. I agreed, thinking I could come up with the money. Well it turned out that I couldn't and I talked to her on the day of the event. I tried to explain to her that I was (am, still) seriously broke and couldn't get even groceries so I didn't think it would be right to go. I apologized several times, Well she was very upset and hasn't talked to me since. It has been months. I would think that she would understand my trouble and not let it effect a good friendship, but maybe not.
But, she has recently put me on one of her mass emailings inviting me to a similar event this Saturday. I am still broke and have to work so I replied declining.
We used to be such good friends, and I miss her. How do I try to rectify this? Can we ever be friends again?
P.S.
We are moving in a month and won't have much of a chance later to patch things up...
Comments (7)
I know how you feel, I just went through that my self.
Have you tried to talk to her and tell her how much you miss her? With her knowing you are leaving that you don't want this to end like this.
If you have done all you can do and see still doesn't contact you, then you can say you did all that there is to do and you can go away fell good about that.
It may take her awhile, but maybe knowing you are going to be gone she will come to her sinces.
P.S.
Let me know when you are coming.
I haven't found anything out about job's for Eric.
Good Luck!..
Posted by KK | January 5, 2005 2:38 PM
Posted on January 5, 2005 14:38
I have a thought about this, but you may want to call me about it...
Posted by Aimee | January 5, 2005 6:34 PM
Posted on January 5, 2005 18:34
I agree. Tell her straight out exactly how you feel and how things are. Then it's up to her. Frankly, if she were that superficial to not talk to you when you just couldn't afford to go to the whatever-it-was, then are you sure she's such a nice person after all? Just a question.
Posted by Deltus | January 5, 2005 10:51 PM
Posted on January 5, 2005 22:51
I'm kinds with Deltus on this one. What kind of friend would get mad about that?
But if its making you feel bad, talk to her. It can't hurt.
Posted by michele | January 6, 2005 7:28 AM
Posted on January 6, 2005 07:28
I know this is kinda late but here's my opinion anyway.
I am in agreement with Deltus and Michele. A true friend will get upset AND get over it. She would understand your financial situation and not pressure you in anyway. I think you have to ask yourself if this friendship is worth salvaging. Some friendships aren't and that's just how it is.
Posted by TrishaRatna | January 6, 2005 4:06 PM
Posted on January 6, 2005 16:06
I didn't comment because I didn't have any advise to offer. I was curious however, why you would even tentatively say "Yes" to something like this that envolves money. I don't know what IT was exactly, but it already sounds hokey to me. :-)
Posted by Scott | January 7, 2005 7:02 AM
Posted on January 7, 2005 07:02
It wasn't alot of money until you added it all up. The event + gas to Denver and back + 2 meals... I just didn't have the extra 60ish bucks that I thought I could come up with.
I think everyone is right and I put in in her hands to get over it...
Posted by Cher | January 8, 2005 12:09 AM
Posted on January 8, 2005 00:09