Ok, This is something I don't really talk about very often. Not because I am ashamed, just because I have experienced some very rude comments towards me because of it. My 2 daughters live in Iowa with their Father. It has been 23 1/2 months since I have seen them.
Well we have made the final plans yesterday, and they are going to be coming for a 3 week visit. My Mom and I will drive the 11 hours out there on the 23rd of this month and bring them back on the 24th. I am so excited.... I miss my babies sooooo much... You can't even imagine how hard it is to be away from them like this. Its not that I am a horrible Mother that they are with him. Its MONEY... And he has more than I do. He can afford the cheerleading, volleyball, swimming, track, gymnastics, theatre and dance that they do... He has his own "construction company". And I guess he can do "better" for them. I know deep in my heart that when it comes to love and understanding that I am the better parent for that.
I am hoping that someday they will want to move back here and be with me. Its something that I have to have faith with... And that is so hard for me... I will gladly accept any prayers and good thoughts that you can send my way.
Thank you.
Comments (8)
Yay! And if there are any snide remarks send them my way. You are doing what you think is best for your kids instead of being selfish and doing what you want, having your kids around even if you can't give them what they need. Good for you!
Posted by Krush | July 8, 2004 6:24 AM
Posted on July 8, 2004 06:24
I agree with their comments! You've always shown to be a good mother and it has to be VERY HARD to be away from them for so long - I hadn't realized it had been THAT long! Well, enjoy them, girl and my prayers are certainly with you! Maybe we can have a family dinner while they're here? The grandkids are coming over for a week sometime - not sure when, but soon. Next week is my last week of school, so let's plan something, ok?
Posted by Aunt Sue | July 8, 2004 9:31 AM
Posted on July 8, 2004 09:31
Don't let the bastards get you down. You are doing the best thing you have judged for your girls and if someone has problems with that, tough. I hope you have a great time with them and create some more good memories! Enjoy!
Posted by Gwynn | July 8, 2004 12:43 PM
Posted on July 8, 2004 12:43
I am so happy for you that you get to see your girls. I will pray for you that they will want to come live with you. Sometimes love and understanding is better than all the money in the world. Ignore all the people who give you nasty comments. Youa re doing what you feel is right and it is nobody's place to judge!
Posted by Angie | July 8, 2004 1:28 PM
Posted on July 8, 2004 13:28
Nothing but good thought going your way right now and CONGRATS! My mom made the same decision when her and my dad split and I know that it was the best decision as an adult. She couldnt afford for us what he could - and He wasnt rich at all. I respect and admire her for that decision, especially now that I do am divorced I respect how difficult that was and I thank God I didnt have to make that decision.
You deserve this good fortunate and good time.
Posted by zoot | July 8, 2004 8:40 PM
Posted on July 8, 2004 20:40
i am glad you actually get to see your girls some guys figure when they get custody that is it and that they do not have to let the mother see their children. so have a good time and don't worry about what anyone else things, because they do not even have any concept of why you do what you do. have good one and i will pray for you.
Posted by mal | July 10, 2004 7:01 PM
Posted on July 10, 2004 19:01
Well technically we still have Joint Custody... He has "parental responsiblity" and I have "free and liberal" visitation. Whichj means they "live" at his house and I can see them "whenever" I want... Well he makes sure that I don't get to see them very often by living in Iowa. But I am looking to change that...
Posted by cheryl | July 11, 2004 9:26 AM
Posted on July 11, 2004 09:26
Hi Cheryl,
I found my way here bloghopping. My kids don't live with me either, in my case because my health is so bad (physically due to a load of stuff & mentally because I'm bipolar). I know just what you mean by snide comments. Hardly anyone from the village I lived in while I was married speaks to me now. My boys are almost 12 & almost 13. Anyway, I just wanted you to know that I am in a similar situation to you. *Hugs* & prayers, Annie xxx
Posted by Annie | July 20, 2004 3:55 PM
Posted on July 20, 2004 15:55